I've been trying to recreate "home" today - more out of boredom than out of any desire to be home. The dog is ill and has been making messes all over the (carpeted!) living room floor, so I took the day off from work and am watching the dog in a hawk-like way while attempting to spend the day constructively. I risked an hour away from the house this morning so I could go to church, which was nice. To be honest, I didn't pay much attention to the sermon itself - it delved into David and Bathsheba and how David must have felt post-murder of Uriah the Hittite, while all I could think during it was "well, Dave, if you had just kept your eyes to yourself..." - but the hymns were familiar, the prayers were comforting, and the people were friendly, if quiet. Presbyterians are the same the world over, I think.
I ran into the grocery store for a few minutes to pick up some supplies, then started baking bread. The dough is rising for the second time right now, and I cooked lunch and cleaned the living room while waiting on it. NPR played behind me while I worked and it was nice. The unfortunate (or fortunate, depending upon one's mood) side to housework and listening to things is that it's very easy to tune out whatever you're listening to in order to concentrate on your own thoughts and ideas. My thoughts turned to my last Chaucer class and our discussion concerning the faerie folk.
Faeries have always been part of my life. I remember days in the late summer, when toadstools and mushrooms appeared in telling patterns on our lawn and my siblings and I would dance around them, warning each other not to step inside because the faeries would snatch us away. Sierra was the source of this legend, being the most knowledgeable of all of us on subjects of myth and fancy. I would sneak a toe in when no one was watching, just to see. (I chalked up my not disappearing in a puff of smoke to the faeries being a wee bit busy with other matters.) We would shout for the faeries to come out of hiding and build faerie houses underneath the pine trees and lilac bushes. I found out later that Momma would make Daddy mow around the faerie circles, so we could have our fun until the next one grew - at the time, we thought it was some strange sort of magic that kept the faerie circle alive in spite of the riding lawnmower.
At this time of year, while playing around faerie circles, we would peer into the cornfield to make sure hunters or trespassers weren't coming out at us with guns - a legitimate worry, especially as hunting season was beginning. We would gather pine cones and twigs for when we still had our wood-burning stove. Berries and walnuts, which were prime for picking then, we would boil down for inks to be used at Heritage Days. (The walnut made a better ink than the berry, though the berry was prettier.) We would scurry around, up and down trees, playing make believe in the Den and the Lone Pine and Mulberry Meadow. The Witch's House was gorgeous at this time of year - the trees that formed it were just starting to change color and fall to the ground. Sierra and I formed our own miniature coven, where we would brew mint leaves and pine needles together in cold water and wave maple twigs over it, chanting spell couplets we had found in books - this was long before Harry Potter was ever even thought of. This is about the time we would begin begging Momma to let us carve pumpkins for Halloween, even though we knew that they would rot before Halloween if we did it now. We made scarecrows for the front yard and had already changed our minds at least fifteen times concerning Halloween costumes.
This retrospective was not just triggered by Chaucer, though I did spend a few moments reminiscing until Frank snapped me from my spell. An elderly lady of my acquaintance, Feencie McClain, passed away last week after having a heart attack. Momma called to tell me yesterday. I'm not sad - Feencie had a long, full life and she still had her wits about her. I'm told that a few days before she died (after the heart attack), she had been unable to attend a wedding after having bought a new outfit (with matching shoes and hat, Feencie was always a snappy dresser). She merely shrugged and said that she would just have to wear it for her funeral, as though it was a mere nuisance. Her daughter, Clissie, protested loudly at the time; but Momma and Aunt Nancy just laughed and laughed. And not because they didn't believe Feencie - they did. They laughed because Feencie was just so ready. It's difficult to fathom now, but there will come a time when I am ready, too.
For right now, though, I'll just think about Feencie with her teeny-tiny, well-dressed personage sitting primly her pew. Her beaming smile, her happy eyes, her stories about Watsontown when she was a girl and there were still horses and carriages trotting up and down Main Street. Of course, I will always remember her scolding Nanna Pat for telling me not to run in church - she informed Nanna Pat that children needed exercise, especially after sitting cooped up for an hour listening to someone talk at them, then proceeded to walk me outside and set me and the other kids to a game of kickball in the church parking lot.
I'll miss Feencie a lot. But, to be absolutely blunt, I'm glad she's gone.
Sunday, September 16, 2007
Friday, September 14, 2007
The Cost of a Soul
My soul is worth a free trip to New York City. I discovered that last week when I consented to the theatre-equivalent of selling one's soul: modelling. Yes indeed - I'm off for a modelling gig today. In exchange for what, you ask? Well, I was approached last week in a public place by a lady who told me that I have a lovely face and would I be interested in a job modelling for a very well-known beauty products company. (Yes, I know the name of the company and no, I'm not saying which one it is.) The payment for this would be, if I was chosen, an all-expenses paid journey to NYC for a photo-shoot in November.
This is both good and bad. Good because, well, I'll be seen. That's important in my line of work - in fact, one of THE most important things in my line of work. Not only will I be seen, but it's a legit job which I can put down in my resume. Modelling just requires a pretty face and the ability to show it off. Bad, because - I really don't want to attain "fame" by displaying my "lovely face" in a catologue or in an advert in Cosmopolitan. Aren't I better than this?
The simple answer to that question is no, I'm not better than this. I depend solely upon the kindness of strangers, as Blanche Dubois would say. Besides, if more modelling gigs come out of this one, then I'm this much closer to scraping together enough funds for a trip to Vienna. And that, my friends, is worth being sullied by having my picture taken of me all dolled-up with nowhere to go.
In other news, Steph and I are taking the evening after her Lysistrata rehearsal to hang out and think about anything but men. We are both unfortunates who are always the friends - never the girlfriends. So, we're taking tonight to shift our focus away from our loveless states and towards something more important: chocolate. I'm of the opinion that we should head somewhere for coffee and cake, then round off the evening with a nice long Firefly marathon. I'm pretty sure she'll be amenable to the suggestion.
This is both good and bad. Good because, well, I'll be seen. That's important in my line of work - in fact, one of THE most important things in my line of work. Not only will I be seen, but it's a legit job which I can put down in my resume. Modelling just requires a pretty face and the ability to show it off. Bad, because - I really don't want to attain "fame" by displaying my "lovely face" in a catologue or in an advert in Cosmopolitan. Aren't I better than this?
The simple answer to that question is no, I'm not better than this. I depend solely upon the kindness of strangers, as Blanche Dubois would say. Besides, if more modelling gigs come out of this one, then I'm this much closer to scraping together enough funds for a trip to Vienna. And that, my friends, is worth being sullied by having my picture taken of me all dolled-up with nowhere to go.
In other news, Steph and I are taking the evening after her Lysistrata rehearsal to hang out and think about anything but men. We are both unfortunates who are always the friends - never the girlfriends. So, we're taking tonight to shift our focus away from our loveless states and towards something more important: chocolate. I'm of the opinion that we should head somewhere for coffee and cake, then round off the evening with a nice long Firefly marathon. I'm pretty sure she'll be amenable to the suggestion.
Monday, September 10, 2007
Chivalry and Courtly Love
Today in History of Music (not having to listen to the lecture does give one time to think, I've found) Dr. Allen mentioned something that made my mind wander from the subject at hand - Papal Avignon and Pope Clement V, if anyone is curious. He asked us what courtly love was and he said I was spot-on when I said that it was a pure, non-physical honor and devotion that a knight held for his lady, and vice-versa. While Dr. Allen said I was right, I didn't really delve too deeply into the true meaning of courtly love.
Dictionary.com tells me that courtly love is:
The conception of an ideal and exalted relation between the sexes, which developed in the West in mediaeval times from sources as various as Plato's Phaedrus, Ovid's Ars Amatoria, and the cult of the Virgin Mary. Before the 12th-c women were for the most part considered inferior to men, but courtly love idealized women, placing them on a pedestal, and the lover's feelings for his mistress were supposed to ennoble him and lead him towards moral excellence. Mediaeval love poetry was deeply infused by the idea, which also influenced Renaissance sonneteers, although by this time the convention was treated with some irony.
Coincidentally, we had been discussing this very subject in Chaucer last week. Frank asked us what a "gentleman" was and we all offered our own interpretations of the term. The words gentle, polite, chivalrous, manly, and brave were all mentioned. Well, being a gentleman in those days also meant being a nobleman, and being a nobleman generally meant that said gentleman adhered to the rules of chivalry - courtly love being an important part of the rules of chivalry.
Frank pointed out, while were discussing what made a man a "gentleman" both now and back in the Middle Ages, that there are very few gentlemen in this world. They are a dying breed. Why? Women's liberation seems to bear a lot of the blame, at least from other sources. Women don't need men anymore, therefore why should men attempt to live up to the rules of gentlemanly conduct when there is no one to reap the benefits?
My question is this: Why should gentlemanly conduct depend upon the behavior of women? This attitude harkens back to the good ol' days when we women were "higher beings" and "angels on earth" and men claimed that women must behave well in order to reign in man's more primitive and uncouth nature. Yet these same men frequented brothels and kept mistresses - "bad girls". Did the mild natures of their sisters, wives, and mothers keep these men "gentlemen"? I think not.
A true gentleman is a gentleman unto himself. He is a gentleman to please himself and God - then, and only then, can he please others.
Since I've hashed this out, I have only one question left, and that is: Where is my gentleman, I wonder?
Dictionary.com tells me that courtly love is:
The conception of an ideal and exalted relation between the sexes, which developed in the West in mediaeval times from sources as various as Plato's Phaedrus, Ovid's Ars Amatoria, and the cult of the Virgin Mary. Before the 12th-c women were for the most part considered inferior to men, but courtly love idealized women, placing them on a pedestal, and the lover's feelings for his mistress were supposed to ennoble him and lead him towards moral excellence. Mediaeval love poetry was deeply infused by the idea, which also influenced Renaissance sonneteers, although by this time the convention was treated with some irony.
Coincidentally, we had been discussing this very subject in Chaucer last week. Frank asked us what a "gentleman" was and we all offered our own interpretations of the term. The words gentle, polite, chivalrous, manly, and brave were all mentioned. Well, being a gentleman in those days also meant being a nobleman, and being a nobleman generally meant that said gentleman adhered to the rules of chivalry - courtly love being an important part of the rules of chivalry.
Frank pointed out, while were discussing what made a man a "gentleman" both now and back in the Middle Ages, that there are very few gentlemen in this world. They are a dying breed. Why? Women's liberation seems to bear a lot of the blame, at least from other sources. Women don't need men anymore, therefore why should men attempt to live up to the rules of gentlemanly conduct when there is no one to reap the benefits?
My question is this: Why should gentlemanly conduct depend upon the behavior of women? This attitude harkens back to the good ol' days when we women were "higher beings" and "angels on earth" and men claimed that women must behave well in order to reign in man's more primitive and uncouth nature. Yet these same men frequented brothels and kept mistresses - "bad girls". Did the mild natures of their sisters, wives, and mothers keep these men "gentlemen"? I think not.
A true gentleman is a gentleman unto himself. He is a gentleman to please himself and God - then, and only then, can he please others.
Since I've hashed this out, I have only one question left, and that is: Where is my gentleman, I wonder?
Saturday, September 8, 2007
Rules: 1. Put your music player on shuffle. 2. Press forward for each question. 3. Use the song title as the answer to the question even if it doesn’t make sense. NO CHEATING! 4. Tag 5 people. 5. With the answers, give your own comments on how they relate to the questions.
HOW ARE YOU FEELING TODAY? "Sparkling Diamonds" from Moulin Rouge. So, I feel like a bright shiny prositute on a swing with TB? Well, I showed enough leg today and Jen did call my shoes "hooker" shoes...
HOW DO YOUR FRIENDS SEE YOU? "Short People" by Randy Newman. I don't deserve to live? That's harsh.
WILL YOU GET MARRIED? "She's Like The Wind" by Patrick Swayze. So, I may get married, but to someone who feels he doesn't deserve me. Unlikely. If I like a guy enough to marry him, generally it's the other way around.
WHAT IS YOUR BEST FRIEND'S THEME SONG? "Waitress" by Tori Amos. So, Phipps wants to kill a waitress. Right then. God, I hope it's not me.
WHAT IS THE STORY OF YOUR LIFE? "Bring on the Men" from Jekyll and Hyde. I don't think anything more needs said, here.
WHAT WAS HIGH SCHOOL LIKE? "Something Bad" from Wicked. Rather, yes.
HOW CAN YOU GET AHEAD IN LIFE? "Hard Fucking" by Tenacious D. *blink* Allrighty then.
WHAT IS THE BEST THING ABOUT YOUR FRIENDS? "Who Will Save Your Soul" by Jewel. Intruiging choice, here.
WHAT IS IN STORE FOR THIS WEEKEND? "What is this Feeling" from "Wicked". Loathing in store for the weekend. Good to know.
TO DESCRIBE YOUR GRANDPARENTS? "What's my age again?" by Blink 182. Appropriate. They don't act their age, at least around each other.
HOW IS YOUR LIFE GOING? "His Work and Nothing More". So, either my work is more important than anything, or I'm in love with someone whose work is more important than anything, or I'm best friends with someone whose work is more important to them than anything, or I'm the parent of someone who is in love with someone whose work is more important to them than anything. God, quartets are exhausting.
WHAT SONG WILL THEY PLAY AT YOUR FUNERAL? "Imaginary" by Evanescence. Intruiging thoughts in this one. Mixture between a drug-trip and a suicide note. That's not too cheery, actually.
HOW DOES THE WORLD SEE YOU? "See How the Fates Their Gifts Allot" from "The Mikado". But the question is, am I "A" or "B"? God, I hope I'm "A".
WILL YOU HAVE A HAPPY LIFE? "You Won't Succeed on Broadway" from Spamalot. I'm not Jewish, so I suppose I might have a happy life if I don't attempt Broadway.
WHAT DO YOUR FRIENDS REALLY THINK OF YOU? "Cabaret" from Cabaret. Obviously that my life is a cabaret. And that I knew a girl named Elsie when I lived in Chelsea.
DO PEOPLE SECRETLY LUST AFTER YOU? "It Don't Mean a Thing (if it ain't got that swing)". Obviously as long as I got rhythm, people will... lust after me?
HOW CAN I MAKE MYSELF HAPPY? "Don't Go Breaking My Heart" by Elton John. By not getting my heart broken, obviously.
WHAT SHOULD YOU DO WITH YOUR LIFE? "The Baby Song" from I Love You, You're Perfect, Now Change. Evidently...make babies?
WILL YOU EVER HAVE CHILDREN? "Little People" from Les Miserables. Take that as a yes, then.
IF A MAN IN A VAN OFFERED YOU CANDY, WHAT WOULD YOU DO? "Marguerite's Dilemma" from The Scarlet Pimpernel. I obviously don't know what I would do.
WHAT DOES YOUR MOM THINK OF YOU? "Betrayed" from The Producers. That's not encouraging. She does like that song, though.
WHAT IS YOUR DEEP DARK SECRET? "Alive" from Jekyll and Hyde. Because my alter-ego is a homicidal maniac. Of course.
WHAT IS YOUR MORTAL ENEMY'S THEME SONG? "The Time Warp" from The Rocky Horror Picture Show. I'm really not seeing that.
WHAT IS YOUR PERSONALITY LIKE? "The Scarlet Pimpernel" from The Scarlet Pimpernel. Because obviously I run to France every other day to save aristocrats from the guillotine. Or some modern day equivalent.
WHAT SONG WILL BE PLAYED AT YOUR WEDDING? "Dance at the Gym" from West Side Story. There'll be a dance-off at my wedding. Kewl.
WHAT BEST DESCRIBES THE ANSWERS IN THIS JOURNAL? "Still Hurting" from The Last Five Years. Entirely inaccurate. I don't remember any of the answers being like that.
HOW ARE YOU FEELING TODAY? "Sparkling Diamonds" from Moulin Rouge. So, I feel like a bright shiny prositute on a swing with TB? Well, I showed enough leg today and Jen did call my shoes "hooker" shoes...
HOW DO YOUR FRIENDS SEE YOU? "Short People" by Randy Newman. I don't deserve to live? That's harsh.
WILL YOU GET MARRIED? "She's Like The Wind" by Patrick Swayze. So, I may get married, but to someone who feels he doesn't deserve me. Unlikely. If I like a guy enough to marry him, generally it's the other way around.
WHAT IS YOUR BEST FRIEND'S THEME SONG? "Waitress" by Tori Amos. So, Phipps wants to kill a waitress. Right then. God, I hope it's not me.
WHAT IS THE STORY OF YOUR LIFE? "Bring on the Men" from Jekyll and Hyde. I don't think anything more needs said, here.
WHAT WAS HIGH SCHOOL LIKE? "Something Bad" from Wicked. Rather, yes.
HOW CAN YOU GET AHEAD IN LIFE? "Hard Fucking" by Tenacious D. *blink* Allrighty then.
WHAT IS THE BEST THING ABOUT YOUR FRIENDS? "Who Will Save Your Soul" by Jewel. Intruiging choice, here.
WHAT IS IN STORE FOR THIS WEEKEND? "What is this Feeling" from "Wicked". Loathing in store for the weekend. Good to know.
TO DESCRIBE YOUR GRANDPARENTS? "What's my age again?" by Blink 182. Appropriate. They don't act their age, at least around each other.
HOW IS YOUR LIFE GOING? "His Work and Nothing More". So, either my work is more important than anything, or I'm in love with someone whose work is more important than anything, or I'm best friends with someone whose work is more important to them than anything, or I'm the parent of someone who is in love with someone whose work is more important to them than anything. God, quartets are exhausting.
WHAT SONG WILL THEY PLAY AT YOUR FUNERAL? "Imaginary" by Evanescence. Intruiging thoughts in this one. Mixture between a drug-trip and a suicide note. That's not too cheery, actually.
HOW DOES THE WORLD SEE YOU? "See How the Fates Their Gifts Allot" from "The Mikado". But the question is, am I "A" or "B"? God, I hope I'm "A".
WILL YOU HAVE A HAPPY LIFE? "You Won't Succeed on Broadway" from Spamalot. I'm not Jewish, so I suppose I might have a happy life if I don't attempt Broadway.
WHAT DO YOUR FRIENDS REALLY THINK OF YOU? "Cabaret" from Cabaret. Obviously that my life is a cabaret. And that I knew a girl named Elsie when I lived in Chelsea.
DO PEOPLE SECRETLY LUST AFTER YOU? "It Don't Mean a Thing (if it ain't got that swing)". Obviously as long as I got rhythm, people will... lust after me?
HOW CAN I MAKE MYSELF HAPPY? "Don't Go Breaking My Heart" by Elton John. By not getting my heart broken, obviously.
WHAT SHOULD YOU DO WITH YOUR LIFE? "The Baby Song" from I Love You, You're Perfect, Now Change. Evidently...make babies?
WILL YOU EVER HAVE CHILDREN? "Little People" from Les Miserables. Take that as a yes, then.
IF A MAN IN A VAN OFFERED YOU CANDY, WHAT WOULD YOU DO? "Marguerite's Dilemma" from The Scarlet Pimpernel. I obviously don't know what I would do.
WHAT DOES YOUR MOM THINK OF YOU? "Betrayed" from The Producers. That's not encouraging. She does like that song, though.
WHAT IS YOUR DEEP DARK SECRET? "Alive" from Jekyll and Hyde. Because my alter-ego is a homicidal maniac. Of course.
WHAT IS YOUR MORTAL ENEMY'S THEME SONG? "The Time Warp" from The Rocky Horror Picture Show. I'm really not seeing that.
WHAT IS YOUR PERSONALITY LIKE? "The Scarlet Pimpernel" from The Scarlet Pimpernel. Because obviously I run to France every other day to save aristocrats from the guillotine. Or some modern day equivalent.
WHAT SONG WILL BE PLAYED AT YOUR WEDDING? "Dance at the Gym" from West Side Story. There'll be a dance-off at my wedding. Kewl.
WHAT BEST DESCRIBES THE ANSWERS IN THIS JOURNAL? "Still Hurting" from The Last Five Years. Entirely inaccurate. I don't remember any of the answers being like that.
Thursday, September 6, 2007
Snuggling
As I've been studying like crazy for my History of Music test tomorrow, I'm reflecting upon the kitten who has been constantly nudging me and meowing and purring in a loud, insistent way for the past two hours. She is now draped across my stomach, sleeping, in spite of the fact that I'm moving her with every letter I type. Every evening when I come home from school, she appears from the depths of wherever she has spent the day and meows at me in an indignant "where have you been all day??" sort of way, before curling up wherever I finally sit and requiring a cuddle before she leaves me in peace to my work.
In spite of the many times I push her away, or throw her off my lap in impatience because I need to work, or yell at her to "Scat!", she comes back to me - still wanting me, her "mother", to caress her and make her feel loved. Why is that? Why doesn't she give up after a while and go away? Why doesn't she bite me or scratch me in spite after I toss her away for the umpteenth time? Why is this kitten, who I picked out one day at the SPCA because she yowled so loudly and sounded just like my grandmama, giving me so much unearned devotion? And why is she trying to lay across my keyboard as I type this post?
My dad insists that I'm foolish to have gone and gotten myself a pet. I am inclined to agree at times. But there are other times, like right now when Emmeline is lying across my lap and wrapping her arms across my abdoment in a big hug, that I feel I must disagree with dear old Dad. Yeah, I have to buy her food and litter, and she's due to go to the vet soon for her shots - but I wouldn't give her up. Never. Because when she sleeps, she makes this cute little "mrr" sound when she inhales. Baby snores.
People have been telling me most of my life that I would make a good mother. I always laughed at them - stating that I very much doubted I would ever have children, because I doubted that I would ever get married. But, considering that I'm getting all maternal over a cat, I'm rethinking that. Not the marriage part - there are no prospects in the near or distant future - but the kids part. I think that even if I don't ever get married, I would very much like to have at least one child.
In other news, Mandy and R.C. are getting married on Saturday. The rehearsal is tomorrow evening - I am a groomsman, believe it or not. I must say, I'm not really looking forward to the blessed event. I mean, it's wonderful that they're getting married, but - well, I'm tired of being a bridesmaid/groomsman/whatever. I'm tired of watching friends of mine get married and start families. It feels almost as if life is going on without me - I'm left in this stasis. I can't even think of someone I want to spend the rest of my life with - or perhaps I can, but I don't have a chance with them.
Hm. All this because I'm holding a kitten and procrastinating. The things that spring to mind at times like these...
In spite of the many times I push her away, or throw her off my lap in impatience because I need to work, or yell at her to "Scat!", she comes back to me - still wanting me, her "mother", to caress her and make her feel loved. Why is that? Why doesn't she give up after a while and go away? Why doesn't she bite me or scratch me in spite after I toss her away for the umpteenth time? Why is this kitten, who I picked out one day at the SPCA because she yowled so loudly and sounded just like my grandmama, giving me so much unearned devotion? And why is she trying to lay across my keyboard as I type this post?
My dad insists that I'm foolish to have gone and gotten myself a pet. I am inclined to agree at times. But there are other times, like right now when Emmeline is lying across my lap and wrapping her arms across my abdoment in a big hug, that I feel I must disagree with dear old Dad. Yeah, I have to buy her food and litter, and she's due to go to the vet soon for her shots - but I wouldn't give her up. Never. Because when she sleeps, she makes this cute little "mrr" sound when she inhales. Baby snores.
People have been telling me most of my life that I would make a good mother. I always laughed at them - stating that I very much doubted I would ever have children, because I doubted that I would ever get married. But, considering that I'm getting all maternal over a cat, I'm rethinking that. Not the marriage part - there are no prospects in the near or distant future - but the kids part. I think that even if I don't ever get married, I would very much like to have at least one child.
In other news, Mandy and R.C. are getting married on Saturday. The rehearsal is tomorrow evening - I am a groomsman, believe it or not. I must say, I'm not really looking forward to the blessed event. I mean, it's wonderful that they're getting married, but - well, I'm tired of being a bridesmaid/groomsman/whatever. I'm tired of watching friends of mine get married and start families. It feels almost as if life is going on without me - I'm left in this stasis. I can't even think of someone I want to spend the rest of my life with - or perhaps I can, but I don't have a chance with them.
Hm. All this because I'm holding a kitten and procrastinating. The things that spring to mind at times like these...
Wednesday, September 5, 2007
Vienna!
Dr. Allen began History of Music in Western Civilization today with a couple of shameless plugs for a couple of school-sponsored trips coming up. (Students, of course, pay, but less than under any other circumstances).
The first of these trips is at the end of this month (my birthday weekend, coincidentally). I'm going on this one - it's a trip to see 'Romeo et Juliette' by Gounoud at the Metropolitan Opera of New York. We'll be there for three days - well, more like two, if you do the math. We leave early Friday (Dr. Allen says that we will leave early enough to get to NYC by 3:30, but we'll see how well that turns out - it IS Dr. Allen, after all), Stephanie and I are already planning on finding tickets for a show that evening and I'm sure Katie will want to go, as well. We have all day Saturday to explore and have a good time, then Saturday evening will be spent at the opera. We leave on Sunday (my birthday) and I can't say I'm displeased. I like travelling and riding in the car with nothing to do but read is a good day for me. Altogether, the trip should cost about $200 total and my parents have agreed to buy half of it for me, as a birthday present. I doubt I shall get much else for said 20th, as money is tight right now, so I thought to ask for one big thing and screw anything else they may have been thinking about buying for me.
The other trip that Dr. Allen talked about is a trip to Vienna for May Term. We would leave Friday of exam week and come home right before graduation, though he says that students not graduating that year generally go on for another week and visit Italy, or Germany, or France. (My pick, I think, would be Germany. John has talked much of Germany in the time I've known him and my curiosity has been piqued. Besides, Ms. Flory would be beside herself knowing that one of her students voluntarily chose to visit Germany, the home of her favorite language and culture.) The problem with said trip is, of course, the money - or the lack thereof. I've had to take out several loans this year to help pay my tuition, due to the loss of my father's job thanks to the American government, and I don't know if they'd let me take out more. As it is, I'll be transferring the loans in my dad's name to my name come graduation, and I'm going to be poor for a long time. Ah, the joys of a private education!
Sometimes, I think that I should have thought more about the type of college I should have gone to, rather than the college I wanted. I should have considered that if I had gone to school in Pennsylvania, it would have been slightly cheaper. If I had gotten a diploma through Pennsylvania Homeschooler's rather than rebelled and insisted upon a parent-issued diploma, I would have had more financial aid for my freshman year. If I had gone to a state school, rather than a private college, I would have paid less in the long run though financial aid would have been more limited. If I had found a private school that cost less than $30,000 a year, I would have been paying less. In fact, if I had gone to Bucknell or Elizabethtown, I would have paid less due to family connections.
To be fair, I did consider Bucknell briefly last year when my sister was diagnosed with cancer again. But that was not due to the questionable merits of its theatre program, but due to the feeling that I needed to be closer to my family.
Too many if's in this equation, I think. Right now, I should not be thinking back and regretting past errors in judgement. I should be thinking ahead, really, because I can't change what was. Fact: I am a junior at Mary Baldwin College, in Staunton, VA.
Fact: This will not change, unless my loans go unapproved for next year.
Fact: I am going to be poor for a very, very long time. Unless waitresses start getting better wages. Or unless my tips get better.
Fact: I am going to do my damnedest to go to Vienna. And to try and see at least Heidelburg while I'm in Europe, since it looks pretty and I've heard so much about it.
The first of these trips is at the end of this month (my birthday weekend, coincidentally). I'm going on this one - it's a trip to see 'Romeo et Juliette' by Gounoud at the Metropolitan Opera of New York. We'll be there for three days - well, more like two, if you do the math. We leave early Friday (Dr. Allen says that we will leave early enough to get to NYC by 3:30, but we'll see how well that turns out - it IS Dr. Allen, after all), Stephanie and I are already planning on finding tickets for a show that evening and I'm sure Katie will want to go, as well. We have all day Saturday to explore and have a good time, then Saturday evening will be spent at the opera. We leave on Sunday (my birthday) and I can't say I'm displeased. I like travelling and riding in the car with nothing to do but read is a good day for me. Altogether, the trip should cost about $200 total and my parents have agreed to buy half of it for me, as a birthday present. I doubt I shall get much else for said 20th, as money is tight right now, so I thought to ask for one big thing and screw anything else they may have been thinking about buying for me.
The other trip that Dr. Allen talked about is a trip to Vienna for May Term. We would leave Friday of exam week and come home right before graduation, though he says that students not graduating that year generally go on for another week and visit Italy, or Germany, or France. (My pick, I think, would be Germany. John has talked much of Germany in the time I've known him and my curiosity has been piqued. Besides, Ms. Flory would be beside herself knowing that one of her students voluntarily chose to visit Germany, the home of her favorite language and culture.) The problem with said trip is, of course, the money - or the lack thereof. I've had to take out several loans this year to help pay my tuition, due to the loss of my father's job thanks to the American government, and I don't know if they'd let me take out more. As it is, I'll be transferring the loans in my dad's name to my name come graduation, and I'm going to be poor for a long time. Ah, the joys of a private education!
Sometimes, I think that I should have thought more about the type of college I should have gone to, rather than the college I wanted. I should have considered that if I had gone to school in Pennsylvania, it would have been slightly cheaper. If I had gotten a diploma through Pennsylvania Homeschooler's rather than rebelled and insisted upon a parent-issued diploma, I would have had more financial aid for my freshman year. If I had gone to a state school, rather than a private college, I would have paid less in the long run though financial aid would have been more limited. If I had found a private school that cost less than $30,000 a year, I would have been paying less. In fact, if I had gone to Bucknell or Elizabethtown, I would have paid less due to family connections.
To be fair, I did consider Bucknell briefly last year when my sister was diagnosed with cancer again. But that was not due to the questionable merits of its theatre program, but due to the feeling that I needed to be closer to my family.
Too many if's in this equation, I think. Right now, I should not be thinking back and regretting past errors in judgement. I should be thinking ahead, really, because I can't change what was. Fact: I am a junior at Mary Baldwin College, in Staunton, VA.
Fact: This will not change, unless my loans go unapproved for next year.
Fact: I am going to be poor for a very, very long time. Unless waitresses start getting better wages. Or unless my tips get better.
Fact: I am going to do my damnedest to go to Vienna. And to try and see at least Heidelburg while I'm in Europe, since it looks pretty and I've heard so much about it.
Saturday, September 1, 2007
Abandon
I itched to leave today. To get out and go - just go. I hopped in my car and drove to Staunton, to hang up posters on campus advertising the Madrigals auditions for Tuesday. As I strolled the campus, I was struck by how golden and beautiful everything looked - this was my place, this was my favorite time of year, this was my moment. And for a moment, I was satisfied with my lot. The only driving need to go at that moment was to run off to Barnes and Noble in Harrisonburg half an hour away, and I decided to go to the not-half-so-adequate substitute that is Books-a-Million to see if that would assuage my need before I wasted fuel in my car.
I went to the library first, though, and browsed around for ages to see if I could make myself save some money. I took out a couple of DVD's (The Four Seasons, directed by Alan Alda - it's excellent thus far; and Bridget Jones' Diary, because I love it) and some books (lots of Elizabeth Peters and Barbara Michaels, to relax my brain in the midst of Chaucer and the mind-boggling qualities of my Basic Math and Music Theory). Then I browsed through the travel section on a whim. I leafed through some books on Germany, to see if I could find a picture of Jena - I couldn't, but I didn't look too hard, so there could have been one I didn't notice - and then couldn't even pick up a book on England, because suddenly I missed it more than I could bear.
If I could have, I would have hopped in the car and driven up to Pennsylvania right at that moment. Without another thought, without packing, without any kind of preparation.
Instead, I hopped in the car and drove back home to Waynesboro. I didn't even bother with Books-a-Million. (I did, however, go grocery shopping. Something nice and ordinary to get me back to my senses.)
I went to the library first, though, and browsed around for ages to see if I could make myself save some money. I took out a couple of DVD's (The Four Seasons, directed by Alan Alda - it's excellent thus far; and Bridget Jones' Diary, because I love it) and some books (lots of Elizabeth Peters and Barbara Michaels, to relax my brain in the midst of Chaucer and the mind-boggling qualities of my Basic Math and Music Theory). Then I browsed through the travel section on a whim. I leafed through some books on Germany, to see if I could find a picture of Jena - I couldn't, but I didn't look too hard, so there could have been one I didn't notice - and then couldn't even pick up a book on England, because suddenly I missed it more than I could bear.
If I could have, I would have hopped in the car and driven up to Pennsylvania right at that moment. Without another thought, without packing, without any kind of preparation.
Instead, I hopped in the car and drove back home to Waynesboro. I didn't even bother with Books-a-Million. (I did, however, go grocery shopping. Something nice and ordinary to get me back to my senses.)
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